Personal Profile
You apologise for things that aren't your fault.
Saying yes to everything isn't really about being kind it’s about feeling safe. You learned that managing other peoples emotions protected you from conflict, rejection, being “too much”. It worked until it didn't and now you're exhausted, wondering how care for others became self-abandonment. That's where we start. Making sense of it, then changing it.
You say yes when you mean no. You rehearse conversations for days, then avoid them entirely. You're the reliable one at work, the easy-going one in relationships. Underneath the “I'm fine”, you're anxious, resentful, and empty. You’ve spent so long being what everyone needs that you don't know what you want anymore. You've lost yourself somewhere in all the performing. You know something needs to change. You're tired of managing everyone else’s feelings whilst yours gets buried. Tired of the guilt every time you think about saying no. Tired of not recognising the person you've become.
I know reaching out is hard especially when you spent so long putting everyone else first. Asking for help probably feel selfish, or like you should be able to handle this alone. That hesitation makes sense. And you're here anyway.
I offer therapy on Mondays and some evenings. Book your free 15-minute chat.
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About Me
Alessandra Samson
Alessandra Samson
She/her
Huddersfield
HD7 6AP
Manchester
Leeds
Counsellor
Introduction
I work with adults who look fine on the outside but are running empty on the inside. People who've spent so long managing everyone else's feelings that they've lost track of their own. Who say yes when they mean no, avoid conflict, and wonder how they became someone they no longer recognise.
Training
Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
Certificate in CBT
Qualifications
BSc Psychology with Counselling and Psychotherapy
MSc Psychological Wellbeing in Clinical Practice
Membership Bodies
BACP
Areas of Expertise
Main Therapeutic Approach
- Person centred
Other types of Therapy offered
- CBT
- Integrative
- Person centred
- Solution focused brief therapy
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I also offer 'Single Session' or 'One off Therapy'. Please refer to the "Services" page on my website for more information (as bookings & fees work slightly differently for this). This is great for those that may not want to commit to ongoing therapy but would still like therapeutic support
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